In Where I Have to Swallow My Pride and Let Things Ride

I am beyond upset. Which isn’t good attitude to be in before I lead Good Friday service.
We had 4 baptisms and 8 confirmations to celebrate this Sunday (out of the youth group)
The plan was that all 12 would be introduced in front of the adult congregation to congratulate them and be in community with them, which is the way it’s supposed to be in my opinion.
Got the call today that 12 students are too many, so the senior pastor wants the 8 confirmation students to be acknowledged only in the youth service.
This is just not right.
The message they’re sending is that the confirmation students are not part of the entire community, since the adults don’t want to celebrate confirmation of their baptism. And the reason that there are too many kids and not enough time is not a very viable reason.
I can’t believe I have to fight for something like this.
Those kids were told that they will be in front of the entire church and their parents, and as a community we would celebrate their confirmation.
Again, community is divided into the Korean Speaking Adults and the English Speaking Youth.
I don’t know what to do. The pastor’s mind seems to be made up.
But our kids are good. I’m sure that it won’t phase them (or at least I’m praying that it won’t). But it’s things like these that frustrates us Second Generation Korean pastors that work in an Immigrant Korean church.
I’m not over reacting, am I?

3 thoughts on “In Where I Have to Swallow My Pride and Let Things Ride

  1. While I can’t speak to what I perceive to be some difficult realities in ethnic churches with 1st and 2nd generation folks present, it seems to me that you have every right to be upset. Baptism and Confirmation are acts of worship for the entirety of the worshipping community. I have no idea what kind of working relationship you have with your senior pastor, but I’d have your back in making a case for including them in worship.

  2. No, I don’t think you’re over reacting at all. The message that this sends to the confirmands is that they aren’t valued by the adults…just the message that we need to be sending to our young people.

  3. I also agree in your thoughts of including them into the worship. It is a very special day. In our church we had the same issue. Because we had so many youth in the already-long Easter Service, the senior pastor wanted us to do it on the following week. There were some resistance, however, we agreed that the following week would be wholly focusing on the youth.
    This is the point I am trying to say. Being upset doesn’t seem to be the best way to make a change. Hope you can talk about this with the Senior pastor, convey your concerns, and see how God works. Some times He just wants us to be still. Will be praying for you and your youth

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