Sorry for being a bit MIA.
I was just digesting what happened to me, and I have to say, I’m still a bit annoyed about the whole ordeal.
We had someone come in our campus after a mission project. He said he was in a bad shape and just needed some assistance.
I got called to meet him at church.
We talked a bit. One of our members who first met him had bought him a meal at McDonalds.
He just needed a place to stay at night. You know, looking back, my gut instincts told me to just let this person go. But compassion won over my gut instinct. He said, he just needed a night. I remember asking, “what’s one more night going to do?” And he said that it’ll get him a warm shower and a bed to rethink his strategy.
So I took him to a local motel and got him a room for the night.
I also gave him information about a local Temple in our area that helps people in his situation.
I gave him my number and told him to call me if he decides to give the Temple a try, and I’d take him there.
He thanked me.
The day passed.
And that’s when the calls and texts wouldn’t stop.
He’d text me asking me if I could hook him up for one more night.
I would text him back telling him, I couldn’t do that, but if he wanted to head towards the Temple, I’d give him a ride.
Next day, repeat. His texts getting more dramatic. But I told him that if he wanted to go to the Temple, I’d take him there. But another night in the motel was out of the question.
I also found out that the member that helped him originally, he continued to contact the member and asking the member to help him pay for some meals, which the member kindly did. One day, the guy called up the member and asked for a little money for dinner. The member explained that he will be there to help the guy, but he hadn’t seen his family over the weekend and was about to have a family meal. After the meal, the member explained, he’ll head over to where the guys was to buy a meal.
The guy texted the member about every 15 minutes during dinner time.
Finally, when the member sent his family over to the shopping center, the guy was already eating dinner and was agitated and annoyed that it took our church member that long to get to the shopping center.
I didn’t mind him contact me over and over and over. But I was really annoyed that he was contacting our church member constantly.
He stopped by the church a couple of times in the past two weeks. But I wasn’t there.
He stopped by this morning.
And I simply said, “We can’t help you. I can take you to the Temple if you want. But other than that, there’s not much we can help you with.”
And he went on and on. The more people that stopped the office, the louder and more dramatic his story got.
I felt that I was getting angry. But, there was nothing we could for this guy.
And, he walked away angry and annoyed.
But what could I do?
This is just a nutshell of what happened. I was annoyed of how annoyed I was. At him. It almost came to the point where I felt like I’d have to kick him out of church before he starts harassing more people. But there’s no way my heart would allow me. To kick someone out of the church property? No. That would be too much for me.
But he left. And I’ll probably hear from him again in about a week.
My offer will stand, in that I’ll take him to the local Temple.
It just sucks that sometimes things’ll have to get to this point.
Someone said, “you’ve done all you could.” And I wanted to say, “you know… I think that’s the problem with many people. We do the bare minimum and we say to ourselves, ‘we’ve done all we could.'”
I’m rambling on, which means that I still haven’t digested it all.
It’s not that I’m not willing to help the dude.
I’d be willing to help him out in a non-monetary way, and in something that’ll help him get to the next step of his journey.
I wish I was eloquent and can think of the words to say that wonderfully describes all that I feel. But, all I got is “this just sucks.” And it does. Mightily.