It’s really hard to focus on the good things that happen in our lives.
And there are so many good things that happen on a daily basis.
We either take them for granted or we’re too busy focusing on all the things that happens to be going wrong.
It’s far more easier to focus on the bad things that happened and can happen.
In a conversation about N, my wife asked me, “Do you think kids these days would make fun of N?”
Without even hesitating I said, “Of course.”
I began to tell her about the kids who tricked an autistic boy to do the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge with piss and cigarette butts.
I also shared the story of two men squirting BBQ sauce all over a kid with autism saying, “We caught the [r-word]” – a reference to Pokemon Go.
The response of the people in Tempe Town Lake was beautiful and moving.
But it’s funny how when I retold the story, I focused on the bullying.
I should focus on stories that restore faith in humanity and not focus on making my soul darker.
Which brings me to the story of Kyle Rudolph and Bo Paske.
Bo’s mother wrote a Facebook post that went viral:
I do remember middle school being scary, and hard. Now that I have a child starting middle school, I have feelings of anxiety for him, and they can be overwhelming if I let them. Sometimes I’m grateful for his autism. That may sound like a terrible thing to say, but in some ways I think, I hope, it shields him. He doesn’t seem to notice when people stare at him when he flaps his hands. He doesn’t seem to notice that he doesn’t get invited to birthday parties anymore. And he doesn’t seem to mind if he eats lunch alone. It’s one of my daily questions for him. Was there a time today you felt sad? Who did you eat lunch with today? Sometimes the answer is a classmate, but most days it’s nobody.
A friend of mine sent this beautiful picture to me today and when I saw it with the caption “Travis Rudolph is eating lunch with your son” I replied “who is that?” He said “FSU football player”, then I had tears streaming down my face. Travis Rudolph, a wide receiver at Florida State, and several other FSU players visited my sons school today. I’m not sure what exactly made this incredibly kind man share a lunch table with my son, but I’m happy to say that it will not soon be forgotten. This is one day I didn’t have to worry if my sweet boy ate lunch alone, because he sat across from someone who is a hero in many eyes. Travis Rudolph thank you so much, you made this momma exceedingly happy, and have made us fans for life!
In an interview, when Bo was asked about the lunch he responded, “It was kinda like me sitting on a rainbow.”
There is good in the world because God created it and called it “good.”
I just need to focus on reminding myself of all the goodness and blessings that surround me.
And if I can’t find any good, then maybe I need to be the good in the situation…
In the mean time, this place is super dusty and there’s something in my eye…